★★★★★ Rated Best Session of the Conference by Attendees

Composure Through Conflict

Stop Taking Things So Personally

A repeatable method for legal professionals who need composure under pressure — delivered by two practitioners who use it in the field.

Presented By
Sam Osborne + David J. Graf Esq., CCAL
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Sam Osborne and David Graf
4.7
Overall Rating / 5
95%
Presentation Skills
39
Evaluations · CAI Law Seminar 2026

"Totally engaging. Different. Funny. Challenging. Best session I attended this conference."

Conference Attendee · CAI Law Seminar 2026
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The Session

What This Program Addresses

The Problem

Emotional reactivity under pressure distorts judgment, damages relationships, and erodes credibility. Most conflict training teaches communication techniques. This program goes earlier in the chain — to the perception underneath behavior.

The Solution

A structured perceptual methodology delivered by an attorney and a Demartini Method facilitator. Includes a live volunteer demonstration so your audience witnesses the methodology working in real time — not described, but seen.

Monday Morning Behaviors

What Leaders Handle Differently

Identify Triggers

Why specific people and situations produce charge — and trace it to its source

Apply In Real-Time

A self-governance process mid-conversation, even in high-stakes moments

Reframe Conflict

As data rather than threat — changing the decisions that follow

Communicate Precisely

Under pressure, reducing ambiguity and reactive escalation

Lead With Composure

In destabilizing environments, without suppressing or performing

Return Independently

To the process on their own — they leave with method, not just feeling

The Duo

Your Speakers

David J. Graf, Esq., CCAL
Attorney · CCAL Fellow · Colorado

David J. Graf

Partner at Moeller Graf, P.C. in Colorado, and CCAL Fellow. David brings the lived reality of adversarial legal environments — the cost of taking conflict personally. His delivery is candid, self-aware, and real. He puts words to feelings professionals experience but rarely name. Attendees recognize themselves in his stories and leave with different eyes.

Sam Osborne — Perception Mechanic
Demartini Method Facilitator · Los Angeles

Sam Osborne

A metal shard nearly took his sight — and transformed his relationship with perception. He has studied perception since 2008 and the Demartini Method since 2014, and now works with attorneys and leaders who need composure under pressure. He delivers live demonstrations of perceptual transformation. Audiences witness it working in real time.

From the Audience

What Audiences Are Saying

"This transformational experience has forever changed the way I practice law and relate to people. Practical and easily adaptable concepts. I highly recommend this seminar!"

Augustus Shaw IV, Esq., CCAL
President, College of Community Association Lawyers

"One of the best sessions I've attended at any conference. Sam and Dave delivered practical tools that immediately changed how I approach conflict—both professionally and personally."

Dawn Roscoe, AMS, PCAM
VP of Operations, Professional Properties Management

"The session reinforced emotional discipline during difficult conversations. Clear tools to separate facts from reactions. Supporting staying grounded, professional, and effective when conflict arises."

Michael Tillotson, CMCA®, AMS®
VP of Community Management, HOALiving/CAM

"Totally engaging. Different. Funny. Challenging. Best session I attended this conference. And on a Friday morning! Bravo, gentlemen."

Conference Attendee
CAI Law Seminar 2026

"Sam was outstanding and provided a refreshing perspective. He also gave common sense and practical solutions."

Legal Professional
CAI Law Seminar 2026

"I highly recommend Sam and David for their presentation for conferences or leadership events serving professionals who operate regularly in stressful, conflict-rich environments."

Brian Butler
President, FirstService Residential Illinois
Evaluation Data

By the Numbers

Source: official session evaluation, CAI National Law Seminar, January 2026 · 39 submitted responses · Friday 9:10 AM session. Multiple attendees independently rated it the best session of the conference.

4.7
Session Rating / 5
4.9
Content Match / 5
95%
Presentation Skills
Program Delivery

One Program, Many Formats

Standard Formats

  • 60-minute keynote program
  • 90-minute keynote with extended Q&A
  • Half-day workshop (4 hours)
  • Full-day retreat (8 hours)
  • Multi-session conference programming
  • Virtual delivery available at same fee

All Formats Include

  • Pre-event consultation with organizers
  • Customization to your industry and audience
  • Live Demartini Method demonstration
  • Audience volunteer for real-time methodology
  • Extended Q&A with both presenters
  • Perceptual balance framework handouts
  • Post-event support and referrals
Speaking Investment

Transparent Pricing

Preferred booking lead time is 90+ days — as a duo program, calendars are coordinated across two speakers and dates fill several months out. Early inquiry recommended.

Program (Keynote Format)

$15,000

60–90 minute keynote, plus all customization, live demonstration, Q&A, and handouts.

  • Pre-event consultation to align program with organizational challenges
  • Customization of framework to your industry and audience
  • Live method demonstration with audience volunteer
  • Post-program Q&A session
  • Perceptual balance framework handouts for attendees
  • Full coordination between both speakers for seamless delivery

Program (Extended Formats)

$22,000+

Workshop, retreat, or multi-session formats. Custom pricing based on depth and scope.

  • Opening program + breakout session combinations
  • Multi-day conference programming
  • Executive leadership team sessions
  • Board retreat facilitation
  • Virtual programs available at same fee structure

Travel & Accommodations

Billed Separately

Standard travel arrangements for seamless program execution. Actual costs vary by location and distance.

  • Round-trip airfare for both speakers (business class domestic and international)
  • USA Events: 1 night hotel accommodation (night of event)
  • International Events: 2 nights hotel accommodation (night before and night of event)
Before You Book

Common Questions

Ninety days or more is preferred. As a duo program, dates are coordinated across two speakers' calendars. Rush bookings under 60 days may be possible — inquire and we'll confirm availability within 2 business days.
Yes — every engagement includes a pre-event consultation, and the framework, examples, and live demonstration are tailored to your industry and the specific conflict environments your audience operates in. Legal, association, and corporate versions differ meaningfully.
Yes. Virtual programs are available at the same fee structure, including the live volunteer demonstration — it translates surprisingly well on camera. Hybrid formats (in-person keynote with remote breakouts) are also an option.
A volunteer from your audience works through a real conflict with Sam using the Demartini Method — live, unscripted, in front of the room. The audience witnesses a perceptual shift in real time rather than hearing it described. It's consistently the moment attendees mention in evaluations.
Reach out as early as possible and we'll work with you to find an alternate date. Rescheduling and cancellation terms are outlined in the speaking agreement provided at booking.
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