One person gets under your skin. Get your calm back.
For accomplished professionals who can't stop reacting to one person: a boss, a partner, a parent, an ex. Not coping tools: the charge itself, dissolved.
“A single session with Sam… had me reach feelings of ‘balance’ and peace with both this person and with the situation.”Corinne Westphal, Editor, France45+ client testimonials · 10 countries · Feel a clear shift, or it’s free
The Under-Your-Skin Exercise. For the one person you can’t stop replaying. Ten minutes.
You've done the work. Therapy, coaching, the books. And there's still one person you can't stop replaying.
Who This Is For
You're accomplished, and people see you as confident.
You've already tried talking it through, and it hasn't shifted.
One specific person still gets under your skin, and it colors everything else.
Not the right fit if you're in crisis, need clinical care, or this person is harming you. Please start with a licensed professional or local support services.
Trained Demartini Method Facilitator45+ client testimonialsClients in 10 countries
The person who won't leave your head.
Capable people rarely lack skill. What holds them back is one person they can't stop reacting to.
The one at work
The boss who talks over you. The colleague who takes credit. You rehearse the next meeting all weekend.
The one at home
A partner, a parent, a sibling. The same argument again, even when they're not in the room.
The one you can't walk away from
A client, a board, a business partner. You need them, and every call leaves you tight.
The one who's gone
An ex, an old friend, a former boss. It ended years ago. You're still arguing with them.
What Changes
It stops running you.
Not managed. Not pushed down. Seen clearly, so there's nothing left to hold.
You think of that person and feel calm instead of tight.
You walk into the meeting with them and the dread isn't there.
You stop arguing with someone who isn't in the room.
You stop replaying it at 2 a.m.
You know what to say next, and you say it.
What he does for a room, he does for one person.
Private · One to one · By video
How a Session Works
Not talk. Not tips. A precise process.
Each session takes the one person who gets under your skin and works it through, start to finish.
You don't relive the story. Sam asks precise questions, and you find the answers yourself. That's why the shift tends to last.
The free exercise is the first step. A session takes it all the way to balance.
By video · 90 minutes to 2 hours · Nothing to prepare but the person.
1Name who gets under your skin
2Score how one-sided they feel
3See what you've been missing
4Leave seeing them differently
The shift you can measure
100% cost · 0% benefit→toward 50 / 50
Client Stories
In their words.
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A single session with Sam… had me reach feelings of “balance” and peace with both this person and with the situation. It’s many weeks later and those feelings have endured.
Corinne Westphal
Editor · France
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I was feeling very overwhelmed and overworked with a lot of demanding client expectations. During my session with Sam, he changed my thinking and mindset and BAM!!! I felt valued and felt confident in dealing with conflicting priorities.
Ann Gordon
International Tax Agent · Australia
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Even after… fifty years of working… there can still be days when I struggle to find my mojo with waves of self-doubt washing over me… One session with Sam cleared more black clouds than anything I have ever previously experienced.
Graham Harvey
Professional Speaker · Professional Speakers Australia Hall of Fame
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I’ve tried all sorts of modalities and this one was like having a ninja expert surgeon precisely remove a thorn from my soul. Under Sam’s loving and gentle guidance I could feel my being release and become expansive and filled with ease. I didn’t know what I didn’t know. I didn’t know I could feel this peaceful.
Vibeke Seymour
USA
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There were ah-ha moments that touched a place of clarity specifically to a personal struggle. Since that single session I must exclaim my mind is perceiving my weakness differently. Thank you Sam! A must experience method!
Bethann Ousely
Movement & Fitness Instructor · USA
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Just wow! I was pleasantly surprised to learn how I was holding certain perspectives about my journey in life… It was remarkable how Sam distilled the problem and hit the lynch pin of what was holding me in cycles of immobility in my life and business! Forever grateful for his work!
Darcy Corcoran
US Army Veteran · Tampa, Florida, USA
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I have had one session with Sam so far, and I couldn’t have been more surprised… By the end of almost two hours, I felt drained, but much, much lighter. I found his methods to be absolutely fascinating and freeing.
Jenny Wolf
Lawyer · USA
On Camera
Ask the people who were in the room.
Trisha Graham
Director of Account Management, Morningstar Retirement
Unscripted reflections, recorded at Sam’s live events.
Individual experiences, shared with permission. Results vary.
Why Sam
The person asking the questions.
On KPFK Radio’s Inner Vision with host Dr. Nita Vallens
In 2008, a piece of metal pierced Sam's left eye. His sight recovered. His curiosity about how we see never left.
That question led him to the Demartini Method, and to the idea at the heart of his work: the size of a reaction shows you what you can't yet see. See it clearly, and the reaction has nothing left to hold onto.
Sam Osborne is a trained Demartini Method Facilitator and a keynote speaker on conflict and composure. Born in Perth, Australia and based in Los Angeles, he has guided nearly 200 hours of private sessions by video for clients in 10 countries. Many first knew him as “Self Worth Sam.”
“Sam cuts through the b.s. and gets to the core of you very quickly.”
Lynn Dudley · Maryland, USA
198
Hours of private sessions
10
Countries
45+
Client testimonials
6
Published books
Also on stage for attorneys, advisors, and executives
Investment
Two ways to work together.
One person? Start with a single session. More than one, or the same reaction with different people? Choose the program.
Single Session
Breakthrough Session
$1,100
One session, 90 minutes to 2 hours. Best for one person.
One complete private session
A check-in a week later
Credited toward the program if you continue within 30 days
Clear-Shift Guarantee: feel a clear shift, or it’s free
If you don’t feel a clear shift in how you see that person by the end of your first session, tell me before we hang up and I’ll refund you in full. On the program, that means a full refund and the program is cancelled.
Every engagement starts with a free 20-minute fit call. Terms are set out in writing before you commit. Terms of Engagement
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Questions.
What is a Demartini Method session?▼
The Demartini Method is a structured questioning process developed by Dr. John Demartini. In a private session, Sam guides you through precise questions about the one person who gets under your skin until you can see them in balance, with both sides equally clear. Sessions run 90 minutes to 2 hours by video.
How is this different from coaching?▼
Coaching usually focuses on goals, plans, and accountability. A Demartini Method session focuses on the one person you can't stop reacting to and works it through in a single structured session. Many clients use it alongside coaching.
Is this therapy?▼
No. It's an educational facilitation process, not psychotherapy or counseling, and it doesn't diagnose or treat any condition. If you're in crisis or need clinical care, please see a licensed professional first.
Do I have to share my whole story?▼
No. The work focuses on how you see one person, not on retelling what happened.
What if they’re still in my life?▼
Most are. The goal isn’t to change them, avoid them, or confront them. It’s to see them clearly enough that you can be around them and stay calm.
Single session or program?▼
One person: start with a single session. More than one, or the same reaction showing up with different people: the program. We'll decide together on the fit call.
How soon will I notice a difference?▼
Many clients feel a shift during the session itself. That's why your first session comes with the Clear-Shift Guarantee: if you don't feel a clear shift in how you see that person by the end of it, tell me before we hang up and I'll refund you in full. How far the shift goes from there varies from person to person.
Is it confidential?▼
Yes, under our written agreement. It isn't legally privileged, so please leave out confidential client or case details. They aren't needed.
Can I book from outside the US?▼
Yes. Sessions are by video, and Sam has worked with clients in 10 countries, including the US, Australia, the UK, Canada, and France. You choose your time zone when you book.
Start Here
Book your free fit call.
Twenty minutes, by video or phone. Tell me who's getting under your skin, and we'll see if a session is right for you.
You'll be talking with me, Sam. No assistant, no sales team. If it's not a fit, I'll say so.
Not ready to book?
Start with the free exercise.
Ten minutes, on your own, with the same first step Sam uses in every session.
Free Gift
The Under-Your-Skin Exercise
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Free Gift
Still replaying what they said?
The Under-Your-Skin Exercise walks you through the same first step Sam uses in every session.
Name the one person, and the one thing they did, without the story
The question that starts to take the charge out
Ten minutes, on your phone or on paper, and your first honest answer
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